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This one is for the married guys (I’ll get to the married ladies next week): What does it mean when the Bible says the husband is the head of the marriage relationship?
For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior.
Ephesians 5:23. (NIV)
Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her.
Ephesians 5:25. (NIV)
When the Bible says the husband is the head that means a few different things. However, there is only one of those few things I want to focus on today:
Being the head means the husband is the Head Servant and is to serve his wife, as Christ is the Head Servant of the Church and gave Himself up for her.
As head the husband leads as he humbles himself and serves his wife.
Headship never means dictatorship but servant hood.
Christ is clearly our example of this. Jesus, the King of Kings came to be a servant.
Husbands serve your wives.
This is really tough for me because of my great selfishness and self-centeredness, but it is something that is always before me. It is what God is asking of me. It is my calling. I have a reminder that goes off everyday in my phone that says JUMP UP and reminds me to jump into action and lead my wife Carol by serving her. I need that. Some men are natural servants; I am not one of them.
Some men are doing a great job of this. However, some men who are natural servants do not serve their wives in a spirit of joy, but rather in a spirit of contempt towards their spouse.
Let’s ask God to give us the strength to serve and to do it from a place of joy that comes from gratitude towards God for all He has done for us.
Let’s step up to our calling men and let’s do it today.
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Try your best to never be too busy to read with your kids when they ask you to. After someone challenged me with this when my kids were little, I started keeping an unofficial score of how many times I “would have” said no.
After a year, the number was staggering.
Because my office was at home, sometimes I had to say, “Okay, wait just a little while” if I was in the middle of something. However, my goal became to never say no.
When the kids were a little older we listened to audio books and we had a riot. Actually we listened to audio books all the way through high school.
Reading age appropriate Bibles with our kids was also real important to us all along the way.
When we first started reading to the kids when they were really little we loved Sandra Boynton.
When the kids got old enough to read, my most favorite at that time was “The Giving Tree” by Shel Silverstein
Also, just about anything by Theodor Seuss Geisel. Everybody knows that guy!
Some of our other favorites: Beverly Cleary, Crocket Johnson, Maurice Sendak, Louisa May Alcott, Laura Ingalls Wilder and the list goes on and on!
Take the time and enjoy!
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I love to gossip! To me it’s kind of like enjoying my favorite foods!
We have a dear friend who makes this incredible pasta dish! Wow! It’s so good and I savor every bite!
I love to gossip and it feels so good. Every word is like that savory bite of food in my mouth. Yum!
Does this seem like a strange analogy or are you tracking with me?
Proverbs 26:22 says: “The words of a gossip are like choice morsels; they go down to the inmost parts.” (NIV)
Gossip is like a savory, buttery bite of pasta!
But what is the result of these tasty morsels going down into our inmost parts?
Well, according to God, gossip kills.
The Bible says gossip kills trust between friends and can even destroy those precious friendships. (Proverbs11:13 and 16:28)
But wait! Isn’t gossip kind of like fast food? It’s not good for you but as long as you don’t eat too much you should be okay?
In Romans 1:29-31 in the New Testament, we see the word gossips being used to describe people who have turned their hearts away from God. Take a look at the description of these people who are also called gossips:
They have become filled with every kind of wickedness, evil, greed and depravity. They are full of envy, murder, strife, deceit and malice. They are gossips, slanderers, God-haters, insolent, arrogant and boastful; they invent ways of doing evil; they disobey their parents; they have no understanding, no fidelity, no love, no mercy. (NIV)
When I read this it makes me feel three things:
First, I know I am guilty. My words become deadly when I gossip and I am guilty.
Second, I am so grateful for God’s grace and forgiveness in my life. I have done so much damage with my mouth in my lifetime and I am so grateful God has completely forgiven me when I don’t deserve it. That is grace. Thank you God for your mercy on me.
Last, it makes me want to make a change. Today I have asked God once again to help me in this area of my life where I have failed so much.
“Jesus thank you for your forgiveness in my life. Please help me Lord to have the words of my mouth and my heart be healing and life giving and honoring to you. Amen.”