Tuesday Tiny Tips

  • Marriage Tip-Sexual Intimacy:Bad Information 9/26/17

    Hey married couples! Here’s a question for you just in time for mine and Carol’s 28th wedding anniversary this weekend: How’s your Love Life?

    Doing great? Wonderful, keep up the good work!

    Need some help? I have three really helpful resources to recommend to you couples who are like Carol and I and need a little extra help in the area of intimacy.

    But first, a story I share at the marriage conferences. A mother raised her two daughters always telling them sexual intimacy is dirty and it hurts really bad and you should never do it. The girls eventually became adults and lived together in an apartment with their female cat, vowing to each other they would never get married and expose themselves to nasty, dirty sex. The two women felt so strong about this that they never let their female cat outside to expose her to this torment. One day however, one of the sisters came home from work engaged and told her sibling that she had met someone at work. She confessed that they had been seeing each other secretly for quite awhile and that they had decided to get married. The single sister told her engaged sister that it was okay but she had to send her a postcard from her honeymoon, telling her the truth about sex. The sister agreed.  The Wedding was wonderful and the sister went on her honeymoon. The sister at home received a post card. She found that it had a picture of Hawaii on it and so she flipped it over to see her sister had written only four words on it. They carefully spelled out this simple sentence:

    “Let the cat out.”

    I have surveyed hundreds of couples and have asked them where they first heard about sex. I discovered that the majority of Christians I have asked have not learned about sex from trustworthy parents, their church or another reliable source but instead from other 5th and 6th graders. I wish I was joking but many of you reading this know it is true.

    Is it possible that we have gotten some bad information growing up about sex?

    I learned about healthy, God blessed sex from our marriage mentors, Dave and Ann Wilson and from the books about intimacy they recommended written by great Christian authors.

    Now I want to recommend three resources to you.

    The first is “Sexual Intimacy In Marriage” by Sandra Glahn ThM and William Cutrer M.D.

    Wonderful Christian resource for every married couple who wants a little help in the area of sexual intimacy.

    The second and third are for those of us who have experienced any kind of sexual abuse or have a spouse who has. “Breathe: Finding Freedom To Thrive” by Nicole Baddock Bromley and “Healing The Wounded Heart” by Dan Allender

    Wonderful resources that have helped thousands and thousands of hurting individuals and couples.

    Once again readers, Carol and I receive no kickbacks for resources we recommend in the Tuesday Tips. We just know these have helped countless individuals and couples and want to get them into your hands.

    Click the book titles above to link to the store and read more about these helpful resources.

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  • Faith Tip- God Loved Us First 9/19/17

    I would drive our kids to elementary school every morning and I felt that was a good time to embed something into their hearts.

    Every morning, and I mean every morning, I would ask, “What is the number one thing in life?” When I first started to ask it, they would answer wrong and say, “Loving God.” I would correct them and say, “Nope. That’s number two.”

    The number one thing in life is not loving God. We can’t start there or we get messed up.

    The number one thing in life is knowing that, “God loved us first.” Number two is loving God back. This is actually a big deal.

    If we think loving God starts with us, we start to strive and try to achieve God’s love. God’s love is something that we never have to work for. It is God’s perfect gift to us. Our loving Him back is always done in gratitude for what He has done for us.

    When we feel like it starts with us reaching out to Him, we are striving to earn His love.

    When we realize He loves us first, we stop striving and instead receive and then live our lives as a great big thank you for His unconditional love for us. Our good deeds or good works are done as a gift to Him for the gift of salvation He gave to us first. We don’t do them so that God will love us; we do them because He loves us. Big difference.

    One is working to get to God. The other is receiving the perfect gift He has given us by forgiving our sins and giving us new life.

    When we think we have to work to gain God’s acceptance we are missing the gift The Father gave us when His Son died for us on the Cross.

    Imagine giving someone the perfect birthday present that you saved up for and bought with great excitement, knowing they would love it. Imagine you gave it to them on their birthday and they pulled out their wallet and said, “How much do I owe you?”

    The gift is free. Jesus paid for our relationship with God in full with His blood on the cross. It cost Him everything. Don’t try to earn that, receive it and live a life of great gratitude.


    What do we owe God for what He paid for our salvation? Absolutely nothing.

    What is the best way to show Him we are so grateful for that incredible gift?
    Give Him everything.

    Give him your very life and all that you have as a great “Thank you!”

    We love because he first loved us.
    1 John 4:19 (NIV)

    For it is by grace you have been saved, through faith—and this is not from yourselves, it is the gift of God— not by works, so that no one can boast. For we are God’s handiwork, created in Christ Jesus to do good works, which God prepared in advance for us to do.
    Ephesians 2:8-10 )NIV)

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  • Prayers For Victims of Irma & Harvey- 9/12/17

    Our prayers go out to the countless individuals and families devastated by Harvey and Irma and to the survivors of the earthquake in Mexico that took 61 lives this last week.

    May our Suffering Savior the Lord Jesus comfort and heal the broken hearts and homes of the victims and rescue their lives from the depths of these nightmares the enemy delights in.

    “Lord please move so powerfully to bring healing, hope, deep comfort and great peace to those who even now are suffering so deeply. Please Lord, rescue, save and heal them and may they know you personally. Lord please use each of us as we pray, give financially and help to rebuild in the days, weeks, months and even years to come. Amen.”

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  • Faith Tip-Accountability Part Two 9/5/17

    Accountability Part 2: I am doing life with a few good Christian men that live close to my home.

    I share my struggles with them and they run the race with me.

    Do you have a sin or bad habit you keep returning to? Or maybe you are just stuck in a rut you feel like you can’t get out of.

    Surround yourself with men and women of God who will encourage you to walk with Christ and turn to Him. It has never been God’s plan for us to do life alone.

    Accountability has changed my life. I can’t imagine living without it.

    If you don’t have accountability in your life, commit to praying and asking God for one or two good Christian friends of the same sex to encourage your heart.

    Look around. There may be someone in your life who needs you to be their accountability partner.

    Without exaggeration, God has used accountability to radically change my life for the better and I am so grateful to Him for that.

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