On our wedding day, Carol and I vowed to do life together.
Then we made a commitment to each other that we were not ever going to be one of those couples who sit in a restaurant at the same table never saying a word to each other.
Are you getting in this rut? Can I make a few suggestions that have really helped us?
First, and this may sound a bit cheesy but hang with me because this was great for us: Do you have a hobby that you do with your spouse? Yes, I’m serious. Here me out.
Carol and I live in Michigan.
Because of the Great Lakes, Michigan has a large number of lighthouses. Over 100.
We started visiting Michigan lighthouses and have kept going with the goal to see all of them that we could get to by car. Some are on islands and some are private.
We have filled up scrapbook after scrapbook of selfies we have taken of us at these lighthouses.
When we got close to finishing Michigan, we moved on to lighthouses on the Great Lakes that are not in our state, like the lighthouses on Lake Erie in Ohio.
We truly love doing this together. We both love photography. We both love to Shutterfly. I love to drive. She does her two favorite things in life while I drive, she reads and takes naps. Then in-between naps we tell stories and catch up. This has really been a good thing.
We love it.
We went 26 years of marriage living in Michigan never thinking about lighthouses.
Consider taking a look around in your life and if you and your spouse don’t have a hobby that you share, see if you can hunt one up.
Second, have you been to a Weekend To Remember Marriage Getaway? Some of you are saying, “Yes because that is how we met you Brett Ray in the first place.” If you have never been, there are getaways in almost all 50 states and they are powerful.
Have you been to one but it’s been awhile? Consider going again. Couples say they discover all new things their second and third time around.
I have been to over a hundred of these Weekend to Remember events and I can honestly say I have learned something new at every single one. Different speakers, different stories. Very Powerful.
Find your Weekend To Remember Getaway Here
And third, Carol and I really believe in Marriage Counseling.
Watching a good counselor counsel is like watching a gifted painter paint. God has given certain people the gift of counseling for the purpose of helping to heal. Good, God blessed counseling has touched my life in countless, very powerful ways throughout the years of my life.
Don’t shy away from counseling, if you find the right person, God can use him or her in a very gifted and healing way in your life.
Get the conversations going again, like when you first got married.
Lord Jesus, please bless the couples who are reading this who are in a rut. Please help them to talk to each other and please bless their friendships. I love you Lord, Amen