Marriage Tip- Joking About Divorce is Planting Seeds of Divorce

Marriage Tip- Joking About Divorce is Planting Seeds of Divorce

My wife Carol and I joke about everything.

When Carol got pregnant with our firstborn I teased her about getting big. We shared great laughs over this.

Weird. Right ladies?

Then, a year and a few months later she got pregnant with our twins.

She got enormous.

Carol’s girlfriends cornered me at church one morning and said, “You have got to stop teasing Carol about being big! You just don’t do that! You don’t tease a pregnant woman.

So I stopped.

One day a week or so later, Carol came up to me and burst into tears.

I asked, “Honey! What’s wrong?”

She said, “You don’t tease me anymore about being big!”

I said, “I was told not to!”

She asked, “By who?”

I said, “Your girlfriends!”

She said, “NO! I love it when you tease me!”

I said, “Oh… well Goodyear just called and asked if you would fly over the stadium and take pictures of the game on Sunday?”

She grabbed me with a laugh and said, “I love you!”

True Story.

Okay. Two things

First: Guys, most women do not like to be teased. For that matter ladies, a lot of us guys don’t like to be teased either. DO NOT use this Tip as a license to start teasing your spouse. Carol and I do it in a very safe and loving way and we both love it. If your spouse does not like to be teased, that is normal.

Most people don’t like to be teased.

So why this Tip?

Okay, second: This is the reason for the Tip. Carol and I joke about anything and everything under the moon. However…


We have been married since 1989 and we have teased each other thousands of times. But never about divorce. Never.

Teasing about Divorce is a way of planting seeds of divorce.

My advice: Never tease about divorce. Don’t plant those seeds.

Have a great week friends.

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