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Never plant Seeds of Divorce in your marriage.
Seeds of Divorce are those lines that are said when one is hurt or angry with their spouse.
“Well, I think you just married the wrong person!”
“I don’t think this is going to work out!”
“I can’t see any way this can last!”
My wife Carol and I made a bond with each other when we were engaged that we would never plant Seeds of Divorce.
We’ve never broken that no matter how hurt or upset we have gotten.
Also, Carol and I joke about everything.
I mean everything.
We never joke about divorce.
Consider apologizing and making a change to stop planting Seeds of Divorce.
Put a stake in the ground today. Make a bond. From this day forward…
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If you have a voice in your head telling you that you are worthless, that voice is not God speaking.
Listen to God’s voice:
You are my treasure.
You are my child.
You are so very precious to me.
I am holding you in my arms.
Nothing and I mean nothing can separate you from my love.
I love you so much I gave everything for you so I could make you mine.
I love you.
For I am convinced that neither death nor life, neither angels nor demons, neither the present nor the future, nor any powers, neither height nor depth, nor anything else in all creation, will be able to separate us from the love of God that is in Christ Jesus our Lord.
Romans 8:38-39 (NIV)
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Teach your children while they are young how to pray. Remembering that prayer is simply talking to God.
To help them get started, let them take turns at bedtime or at meals.
Remember, God is not impressed with fancy words. God is not impressed by long prayers. God wants to hear from our hearts.
Teach them to not just pray for themselves but to pray for others, and help them to be thankful.
Then get into the practice of praying throughout the day, for any and every reason.
If your child is uncomfortable praying out loud, give them space and just continue to invite them from time to time.
If your child is not ready to pray out loud, make sure they know that praying out loud is only one of many ways to pray. Teach them that prayer starts with what their thinking. They can think there prayers.
Never put your child on the spot and ask them to pray in front of company, unless you are absolutely sure they will be okay with that.
I learned my lesson the hard way with this one. We were having dinner with some great Christian friends and I put one of their kids on the spot to pray in front of everyone before the meal. He was visibly uncomfortable. I felt terrible. Awesome kid, he was just not ready to pray out loud in front of friends.
Our children can learn to pray as we lead the way and pray out loud in front of them. Don’t push them, encourage them.
Pray together as a family.
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Prayer is such an important part of parenting. It is so important to pray and ask God to work in our kid’s hearts and go where we can’t go.
To commit our children into God’s hands on a daily basis and ask Him to move and work in their lives is crucial.
We adopted our youngest, Mareah, from Haiti when she was almost two and our five-year-old, Kelly, was so excited to finally have a baby sister.
Mareah’s first summer with us, Carol’s sister Kathy made beautiful matching dresses for Kelly and Mareah.
When we got to our first summer camp where I was speaking for the week, the girls had on their matching dresses as we all got out of the van.
One of the male counselors was standing there and said to my young daughters, “Oh my! You guys are twins! How will I ever tell you apart?” Keep in mind, Kelly was blond and fair and Mareah was black hair with beautiful brown skin.
Kelly got a very serious look on her five-year-old face and said to him, “If you look very closely, you will see I have a freckle on my right eyelid.”
Carol and I have parented Kelly and Mareah in such a way as to love one another, however, we have seen the Holy Spirit take their relationship way beyond our parenting; far beyond any love that we have taught them.
Pray and commit your children into God’s hands each day and ask Him to parent them, guide them and draw them into His presence.
No matter what their age, don’t stop praying.
No matter if they are followers of Christ or not; don’t stop interceding on their behalf. Don’t give up.
Keep on praying.