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Married women, last week I challenged the guys and this week I have a challenge for you wives. For a lot of you this won’t be new news but hang in there.
Consistently, the majority of men will say when asked the question, “Is there anything more important to you (in your marriage) than your wife’s love?” Majority of men will say, “Yes. Her respect.”
Love is still very important to us guys, but being respected by our bride is at the top of the list for most men.
However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband.
Ephesians 5:33 (NIV)
I know this is becoming more well known these days in comparison to when we got married in the 80’s. Of course it was talked about back then, but it has been really emphasized since then in part do to two impactful books: Emerson Eggerichs book “Love and Respect.” and Shaunti Feldhahn’s book “For Women Only.”
I asked you to hang in there. This is why.
Just because women know it, doesn’t mean they always show it.
Knowing it and continuing to live it out can be thousands of miles away from each other.
When my wife Carol tells me she admires me for whatever reason and that she is proud of me, I am on top of the world.
Ladies, let your husband know you believe in him. I know we are not perfect (myself by a long shot) but when you believe in us, we can take on the world.This quick 2 minute video clip makes an interesting and intense point from our Marriage Jedi’s Dave and Ann Wilson.ResourcesWe get no kickbacks from resources we recommend. We would just love to get them into your hands.
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This one is for the married guys (I’ll get to the married ladies next week): What does it mean when the Bible says the husband is the head of the marriage relationship?
For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior.
Ephesians 5:23. (NIV)
Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her.
Ephesians 5:25. (NIV)
When the Bible says the husband is the head that means a few different things. However, there is only one of those few things I want to focus on today:
Being the head means the husband is the Head Servant and is to serve his wife, as Christ is the Head Servant of the Church and gave Himself up for her.
As head the husband leads as he humbles himself and serves his wife.
Headship never means dictatorship but servant hood.
Christ is clearly our example of this. Jesus, the King of Kings came to be a servant.
Husbands serve your wives.
This is really tough for me because of my great selfishness and self-centeredness, but it is something that is always before me. It is what God is asking of me. It is my calling. I have a reminder that goes off everyday in my phone that says JUMP UP and reminds me to jump into action and lead my wife Carol by serving her. I need that. Some men are natural servants; I am not one of them.
Some men are doing a great job of this. However, some men who are natural servants do not serve their wives in a spirit of joy, but rather in a spirit of contempt towards their spouse.
Let’s ask God to give us the strength to serve and to do it from a place of joy that comes from gratitude towards God for all He has done for us.
Let’s step up to our calling men and let’s do it today.
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Try your best to never be too busy to read with your kids when they ask you to. After someone challenged me with this when my kids were little, I started keeping an unofficial score of how many times I “would have” said no.
After a year, the number was staggering.
Because my office was at home, sometimes I had to say, “Okay, wait just a little while” if I was in the middle of something. However, my goal became to never say no.
When the kids were a little older we listened to audio books and we had a riot. Actually we listened to audio books all the way through high school.
Reading age appropriate Bibles with our kids was also real important to us all along the way.
When we first started reading to the kids when they were really little we loved Sandra Boynton.
When the kids got old enough to read, my most favorite at that time was “The Giving Tree” by Shel Silverstein
Also, just about anything by Theodor Seuss Geisel. Everybody knows that guy!
Some of our other favorites: Beverly Cleary, Crocket Johnson, Maurice Sendak, Louisa May Alcott, Laura Ingalls Wilder and the list goes on and on!
Take the time and enjoy!