Marriage Tip- Hot Buttons! 1/9/18

Marriage Tip- Hot Buttons! 1/9/18

We all know our spouse’s pet peeves.

We all know our spouse’s “Hot Buttons”

We all know exactly what words to say, those actions to take, that put our spouse in a very bad place.

My wife Carol and I have always had a rule as old as our marriage itself.

Don’t ever push those “Hot Buttons” on purpose.

No matter how mad you are, no matter how much you want to get back, no matter how much you want to get even.

Don’t ever push those “Hot Buttons” on purpose.

For me, this has been a matter of growing up.

When I don’t get my way, or I’m angry about something, or my feelings have been hurt, I can become a five-year-old real quick.

Simple rule. Easier said than done in the heat of an argument, but boy it can save things from going from bad to worse: Don’t ever push your spouse’s “Hot Buttons” on purpose. For any reason.

The goal is not to be conflict free in our marriage. The goal is to handle conflict correctly when it occurs.

Be a peacemaker. Not a troublemaker.